A New Chapter

My life has changed. After thirteen years of marriage, I am now living alone. There is a special (triathlete!) man in my life, but he’s a four hour drive away. After a few wonderful years of setting PRs, I have had a slew of injury setbacks. Nothing major, but enough stifle any progress because I’ve dialed down both mileage and intensity. I am trying to accept my new normal while still striving to improve. I have had to take a hard look at myself and what I truly value and believe. Sometimes life cracks your heart open and forces you to confront everything you’d stuffed deeply inside. Overall, I am optimistic about the future, but it’s been a challenging time.

Athletically, this year has been one lackluster race performance after another, with one notable exception: the Phoenix Marathon in March. After narrowly missing the cutoff for the 2014 Boston Marathon, I am happy to say that I was accepted for 2015. While my 3:31:32 fell short of my sub-3:30 goal, I was thrilled with a 7+ minute PR.


Whether in life or running, it’s all about how you handle the obstacles.

During the spring, I chose the Phoenix 10K as my fall “A” race. I had hoped to crush the 44:01 (7:05 pace) PR I had set on a much hillier course in May of last year, but amended my goal to a 7:30 pace. My friend Shokofeh, who had run the 5K earlier that day, offered to pace me. My boyfriend Ross said he’d run the first five miles with us, and then we’d battle it out. During the race, she repeatedly told me I was doing awesome. He told me I looked pretty when I was suffering. I simultaneously loved them for running with me and hated them for cruising along while I struggled. Ross took off after the fifth mile and beat me by over a minute. Ultimately, their presence kept me honest during the second half of the race, and I finished in 46:32 (7:29 pace). It’s definitely harder to push when you know a PR is out of the question, so I was happy that I achieved my goal.

I’m also at a place where I am having to retrain my brain after skipping and cutting many a workout short due to injury. Speedwork and hills aggravated my calf, so I stuck with slow and moderately paced miles. My body is ready to ramp things up again, and my mind does not like it. It becomes habit to hold back, to take that day off… I’ve had a few small victories lately, though: a 27 degree swim here, a 10-miler before work there. I am beginning to remember the high that comes from pushing through when I’d much rather take the easy road. I want the athlete back.

One non-fitness related accomplishment that I am really excited about is that I have started writing short stories again. During my soul-searching time, I thought about what would I most regret if I were to die right now. I kept coming back to that fact that I had never published a work of fiction. Fear had kept me from even trying. I set a goal this year to either submit a story for publication or to a contest. I stumbled upon the NYC Midnight Flash Fiction Challenge and thought it sounded perfect. Writers were are 48 hours to create a story of 1000 words or less that include an assigned setting and object in a specific genre. Here is what I came up with, if you’re interested. I welcome feedback, positive or negative.

Comedy/Speed Dating/Mousetrap


Sci-Fi/Health Club/Welcome Mat

The contest definitely pushed me out of my comfort zone. I hadn’t written any stories in ten years, much less a mystery, sci-fi, or pure comedy. Ultimately, out of over 1000 entrants, I was one of 125 writers that advanced to the third round, but was not one of the 25 who made it to the end. Still, my main goal was to put myself out there and grow as a writer. I’m usually never satisfied with what I write, which is a big reason I have avoided it for so long. And just like exercise, when you get “out of shape,” it’s hard to get going again. Inertia is a powerful force.

Other things vie for my time as well. I want to get back to blogging here at least semi-regularly. I’d like my house to stop looking like I just moved in. I am also determined to put a high priority on my love life. Both my ex-husband and I agree that we got lazy when it came to keeping things special, and I don’t want to fall into that again. So, while I am committed to staying fit, I may decide to pursue PRs with less fervor, and Boston will probably be my last marathon for a long time.

As this year winds down, I am grateful for many things. My slower body is still capable of pounding the pavement. My creative passion has been rekindled. And I get to share many a mile with the person I love.


10 thoughts on “A New Chapter

  1. Those sound like three clear, ideal goals. Good luck with each one!

    I’ve only ever run a half marathon, and a handful of 5 and 10Ks, so I’m awed by your determination and passion for running and fitness.

    Congrats on doing so well in the FFC! I actually entered last year’s NYC Midnight FFC for a similar-ish reason. I’d hit a bump in the road with my writing and had taken off about six months to do some soul searching. I entered the contest to dip my toe back in the writing water. And I’m so glad I did. It reignited my love for it.

    Again, good luck with each of your goals. It sounds like you’ve got a great attitude going into them 🙂

    • Thanks for commenting, Jen! Congrats on your races. I ran for many, many years before I finally bit the bullet and did a marathon. I’ve done three so far, and I honestly prefer shorter races. Still they are quite an experience, and the satisfaction of completing the training runs was almost greater for me than the actual race. So… much… training 🙂

      Thank you, I’m glad I entered. It showed me that I can write, and yes, reignited my love for it. I also met some cool people (like you), and got some really useful feedback. I enjoyed reading your work and look forward to seeing what you do in the short story competition.

  2. It is so good to hear from you again!
    Let me start by wishing you all the best and nothing but the best for the coming year! Life has its ups and downs, I’m sure you’ll get over any difficulties you’ll encounter!

    I’m planning to run my first marathon this year, about 10 days after your Boston Marathon, so keep me updated!

    I enjoyed very much reading your stories, hopefully we can buy them in hardcover in a few months. Though can you check the links, the first &the third link seems to be the same 😦

    I guess I have been using biggerthansmaller as an excuse, postponing the blog and assuring myself that I would start writing when you posted something. So here it is, created my new website and blog thanks to you!

    Looking forward to the new posts! Don’t keep us waiting!

    • I’m excited to hear how your marathon goes. It’s quite an adventure tackling that distance for the first time. I did my first one for fun and set a very conservative time goal. I also ran at Disney World, hoping the characters would distract me if things got really bad 🙂

      Thanks for reading here stories. I did make a mistake with the links the first time I posted, so it was me and not you.

      Glad you’re writing again too. I am going to try and write here at least every two weeks.

      Thanks for stopping by. You leave THE BEST comments 🙂

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